I have practiced hormone, weight, health, and mind optimization for over forty-five years. I retired 9 years ago; at least, that is what I thought. When I retired, my wife and I owned and operated seven medical clinics specializing in hormone and weight optimization. As we enter our pauses (menopause and andropause), our hormones become disrupted, causing us to gain weight, suffer from the inability to lose the extra weight, sleeping disorders, hormonally induced anxiety and depression, loss of interest in being intimate, and lose our motivation to be social. Our internal chemistry, our hormones, governs how we feel, look, live, and think. Subscribe to my free weekly newsletter, which over 30,000 'paused' women and men already have, by entering your email address below and learn the tools we use to optimize our hormones and weight ‘naturally.’
When should you be WRONG?
🌸 The Pause Newsletter 🌸Brought to you by Doc Mac Coaching This week’s topic: Be Wrong and Be Enlightened Oh, and don't forget to download my gourmet Meso-Meal
I’M RIGHT! YOU’RE WRONG! “Doc, why doesn't he understand? I'm right! He's Wrong! Do you know someone who always has to be right? I do, and when I show her that she is mistaken, she twists the situation into nonsense to prove she was right or not wrong. I have observed that people who insist on being right all the time tend to be stagnant. They are stuck, pedaling in the same place, which is, in reality, falling further behind because they miss the opportunity to improve who they are or want to be. It’s hard to grow when you think you know everything. There is nothing to improve on. You are already perfect. If you know everything, why do you need to learn something new? I encounter this quite often during initial consults. I explain to potential clients that once they are in their “pauses,” the best way to lose excess weight is to play the insulin-glucagon seesaw game. I then told them they could not exercise strenuously while in the program. I can hear their aghast. They say,
The crazy thing is that she is consulting with me because she is stuck, can’t lose weight no matter what she does, and exclaims that she is exercising three or four times a week. She tried dieting, joined a gym, and even hired a personal trainer, but she now weighs more than she did when she started dieting and exercising. But she is right! Do you know how many “paused” women and men I talk to who successfully lost weight by exercising? Could you take a guess? Oh, and by the way, I speak with dozens of “paused” women and men weekly and have done so for over a decade and a half. NONE! None of the women or men I talk to tells me they successfully lost weight by exercising. I am not saying I am right. I am not saying that they are wrong. Not one of the women and men I have spoken to over the last decade and a half has told me that exercise has worked for them when it comes to losing weight. The truth is that once you enter your “pauses,” your ovaries or gonads no longer make any fat-burning hormones (women) or enough fat-burning hormones (men). “You can’t burn fat without fat-burning hormones.” No matter how much you exercise or starve yourself, without fat-burning hormones, weight loss becomes nearly impossible. Okay, this course isn’t about losing weight. The conversation above is just an example of how people who always insist on being right stunt their growth. I have also found that the always-right people are filled with Fixed Ideas. Fixed Idea - an idea…persistently maintained and not subject to change. “Fixed ideas narrow the mind.” The key to growth is to doubt that you are right. When you doubt yourself, the doors of your mind open. This is what open-minded means. Open-minded - willing to consider new ideas; unprejudiced. DOUBT “The key to growing, improving, and becoming better in every way every day is to doubt your beliefs.” Doubt opens the door to truth, knowledge, and betterment. Why? Because we grow when we realize we are wrong and don’t know something. When does someone change from eating unhealthy foods to eating healthy foods? When they doubt whether the way they eat is the right way. For example, if someone has high blood pressure. She says to herself, maybe I am not invincible, and my eating habits are affecting my health adversely, and lessening the length of my life. High blood pressure is a wake-up call. And the medications your doctor prescribes for you scare you, especially when you look at the side effects. “When you doubt you are right, the door to change opens.” The more I research and age, the more I have learned to doubt everything, mainly things I believe are “for sure” right. It is important to doubt anything that has become a fixed idea because by investigating my doubt, I discover. "Discovering is where growth is nurtured." MIND STORIES The more experienced I become, the more I realize our minds are unreliable narrators. I do my best to live in the present time. One of the most important actions I teach my clients is living in their present time. Because our pasts are fictional and our futures nonexistent. They go, huh? For example, I love to tell stories. I am fortunate to be best friends today with my best friends from my youth. I belong to a group of friends who have known each other since we were pre-teens, and we have nearly sixty years of friendship. We get together often. We will sit around telling tales. I will tell a story from our youth, and one of my friends will say, “That’s not what happened.” Then he will tell it how he remembers it. Then another friend will counteract my friend's story and say, “No, that’s not what happened; this is what happened.” “It's not that our minds misinterpret what happened. It is we all have our own stories, and our stories define who we are." If our stories define who we are, our minds hold onto those stories because if we don’t, we are not who we think we are. "Giving up a limb is difficult, but giving up who you are is just as tricky." People who live a life of always being right will hold to being right even if you show them solid evidence that they are wrong. They will ignore the evidence and keep believing their story because if they give it up, they are no longer who they think they are. CERTAINTY VS UNCERTAINTY “The more you think you know something, the more you realize you don’t.” A sagacious man once said, "The more I know, the more I realize I know nothing.” Socrates I am not wise, but here is my quote on uncertainty. “The more you embrace uncertainty, the closer you will come to being certain.” This award-winning writer, popular public speaker, and professor of math at Temple University in Philadelphia says, “Uncertainty is the only certainty there is…” John Allen Paulos This American self-help author and blogger, a three-time New York Times bestseller, says. “Uncertainty is the root of all progress and all growth.” Mark Manson I mentioned in an earlier chapter. “The key to happiness is having problems because solving problems is where happiness is unearthed. Letting problems lie is where unhappiness breeds.” So, how do you solve problems? First, I would like you to admit that your actions are not working; they are wrong. You’ve heard the saying that insanity is doing the same thing repeatedly and expecting different results. That’s what I am saying here. If you are trying to lose weight and you’re not, guess what? Your actions and beliefs are wrong. I also mentioned in an earlier chapter that "We must know what to value and what not to value." For most of my life, I valued the wrong values. How did I come to choose better values? I had to become uncertain and doubt the value of my values. And even though I am sliding into my 70s, there is more to learn than I ever imagined. I used to explain my wrong values with this statement: That's me being me. Isn’t that what many of us believe? Be who you are! But what if who you are is wrong? Or at least not who you want to be? “My wrong values stuck with me way too long because if I changed who I was, that meant I was no longer me.” That's just pure bullhockey! How I define myself is who I am. But who I am is not my best version when I value the wrong values. This is why the fear of success and failure are two sides of the same coin. Fear of success: If I become rich, I will no longer be myself. Fear of failure: If I become poor, I will no longer be myself. “We fear change because it changes how we define ourselves.” ASSIGNMENT Take a long-standing problem you are having. (Write it down) What are you currently doing to solve this problem? (Write your actions taken, if any) If your actions have not solved the problem, you are taking the wrong actions or believing in the wrong beliefs. Take a different action or develop another belief. Become a better you. Now, doubt that you are right and create the YOU you desire by doubting your actions. This Week's Gourmet Meso-RecipeGround Beef Stuffed Bell Peppers 🌟 Ready to Take Your Next Step?Menopause isn’t the end. It’s the invitation to finally step into your full power. If you’re ready to create a body, mind, and life you LOVE... 👉 Schedule Your Free Consultation Here Let's turn menopause into the most vibrant chapter of your life yet. Hope isn’t just a feeling. It’s a protocol—and it’s waiting for you. 💖 With fierce faith in your future, Doc Mac P.S. If you think you're "too old" to change, think again. You’re just getting started. The best is yet to come. 🌈✨ This Week's US-IE We spend the weekend with four other couples RV-ing on the Delta, boating, playing games, and listening to Yacht Rock. 🛥️ 🎸 The Macs Disclaimer: The information provided in this newsletter is for educational purposes only and is not intended as medical advice. Always consult with your healthcare provider before starting any new supplement, including zinc, especially if you have a medical condition, are pregnant, or are taking medications. Individual needs may vary; this content does not replace professional medical guidance. © 2025 Doc Mac Coaching. All rights reserved. |
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I have practiced hormone, weight, health, and mind optimization for over forty-five years. I retired 9 years ago; at least, that is what I thought. When I retired, my wife and I owned and operated seven medical clinics specializing in hormone and weight optimization. As we enter our pauses (menopause and andropause), our hormones become disrupted, causing us to gain weight, suffer from the inability to lose the extra weight, sleeping disorders, hormonally induced anxiety and depression, loss of interest in being intimate, and lose our motivation to be social. Our internal chemistry, our hormones, governs how we feel, look, live, and think. Subscribe to my free weekly newsletter, which over 30,000 'paused' women and men already have, by entering your email address below and learn the tools we use to optimize our hormones and weight ‘naturally.’
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