THE SECOND STEP

DREAM REALITY: Part TWO

Most people make the mistake of setting only their goals, the Haves. I call goals Haves because two other components must be added to achieve them.

As I mentioned in the last newsletter, every desire has three parts.

1. Be – Who we are (our identity)
2. Do – What we do (our actions and productivity)
3. Have – What we possess or experience (our results)

When we set our goals for any given time, we begin at the end, the Have. We must know what we desire to Have before we know what we need to Be.

For example, let's say your Have is to earn a million dollars over the next year.

You'll need to answer another question to achieve that Have.

What will you need to Be to earn a million dollars over the next year?

Before we get into Be-ing, let's review Have-ing

HAVE-ING SUMMARY

• Make an extensive list of your primary desires for all strands of life.
• Choose the most prominent three for each Life Strand.
• Choose the most difficult and procrastinated desire for each strand.
• Place all your focus on each Have for one quarter of the year.

Most people focus on the Me Have for the first quarter. But if you have another strand that needs attention, please feel free to start with that strand.

We will reevaluate each strand's Have each quarter.

The other Life Strands Haves you are not concentrating on are waiting in the shadows of our minds and working their way to their destination subconsciously.

BE-ING

"Doc, I used your first tool, the one you call Have-ing, and I know exactly what I want to achieve within my ME Strand. I want to weigh 135 pounds. What do I do next?"

Your current first-quarter desire sits on the other side of the canyon; it's time to go to this side.

Your Be is on this side of the canyon. Your Be is who you are today. For example, you are a Being that weighs 180 pounds.

Let's return to the million-dollar Have for a moment. If you decide to have one million dollars but Have one hundred dollars, your Be is a Being with one hundred dollars.

Recall that Be is defined as – Who you are (your identity)

Here is something I want you to think deeply about.

If your Be weighs 180 pounds or has 100 dollars, you will likely Be a Being who weighs 180 pounds or has 100 dollars next year.

Could you please let that sink in?

You must define yourself as the person who has already achieved your Have. Your achievement becomes much more attainable once you believe that you weigh 135 pounds or Have a million dollars.

So…how do we incorporate this into shaping your “ME” Strand into the “YOU” that you desire?

Since your ME Have is to weigh 135 pounds. What would your Be be?

When you walk into any doctor's office, on the top of the physical exam form are three boxes. The doctor will check the box that describes your body type—the three body types are:

1. Ectomorphs are underweight people.
2. Endomorphs are overweight people.
3. Mesomorphs are people who have a body that is just right.

I call it the Goldilocks Body. We weigh just the right weight.

What you need to do next is combine your Have with your Be into an affirmation.

Here are two of the most used affirmations I have seen over my forty-five years of practice.

I am a Mesomorph (BE) and weigh 135 pounds (HAVE)

I am a Calmer (BE) and live a life of calmness (HAVE)

Next, we must bridge your Have and Be with what you need to Do.

I call it The HOPE Bridge.

Stay tuned for Dream Reality: Part Three, where we’ll continue this journey and dive deeper into making your visions come to life.

Remember, the first step to creating your “new me” is to dream clearly about what you want to “Have.” Once you see your destination, it’s much easier to plan the “Do” and Be your Be.”

WHO WANTS TO LOSE WEIGHT?

My roster is full, but if you'd like me to take a week to teach you everything you need to know to lose weight for FREE, talk to me. I only have room for two of my readers, so don't hesitate—I may not have room for the rest of this month. Text me your first name and your email, and I will send the first course.

With the holiday over, our college student returned to college, and our daughter's family staying with us while we wait for her to deliver grandchild #7. Vicky and I stole away to enjoy each other. It was awesome.

🥗 DOC MAC

​

​

FDA Disclaimer:

The information provided in The Pause newsletter is for educational and informational purposes only. The content is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease. The statements made about hormones, weight loss, or any other health-related topics have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration (FDA). Always consult with your healthcare provider before making any decisions related to your health, including starting or stopping medications, supplements, or lifestyle changes.