THE FIRST STEP

DREAM REALITY: Part One

When aiming to transform our physical and mental well-being, we often look at three key states of life:

1. Be – Who we are (our identity)
2. Do – What we do (our actions and productivity)
3. Have – What we possess or experience (our results and goals)

Surprisingly, when seeking real change, it often helps to begin by clarifying what we want to Have. Once we understand that, we can map out the “Do” and “Be” steps that lead us there.

The Four Life Strands

After decades of practicing and teaching life optimization, I’ve found that life can be viewed as four interconnected strands:

1. Me – Your personal physical and mental well-being
2. Us – Your closest circle (e.g., spouse, family, best friends)
3. Them – Your broader community (e.g., coworkers, clients)
4. Him/Her (God) – Your spiritual purpose or higher calling

In this course, we’ll focus on the Me strand, but the tools you learn can be applied to all four strands.

“HAVE-ING”

Because there are three states—Be, Do, and Have—it helps to define each one clearly:

• Be: The state of identity (“I am…”)
• Do: The state of productivity (“I do…”)
• Have: The state of possession or experience (“I have…”)

Today, we’ll focus on clarifying the Have you want most in your Me strand—what you want your body and mind to achieve or experience.

Example: A typical “Have” in the Me strand could be, “I weigh 145 pounds.”

The Power of One Focus

Research consistently shows that focusing on one key goal at a time dramatically increases the odds of success. The same research also shows that setting a deadline for that goal is another key to following through.

To manage this effectively across your entire life, I recommend aligning your goals with the four strands—Me, Us, Them, God—over a single year. Since a year has four quarters, you can dedicate each quarter to one strand. For example:

• Quarter 1: Me strand
• Quarter 2: Us strand
• Quarter 3: Them strand
• Quarter 4: God strand

Of course, we’re always balancing all four strands at once, but giving each strand one-quarter of emphasis keeps you from feeling overwhelmed. You’ll likely find that as you strengthen one strand, the other three naturally benefit as well.

Step by Step

1. Me (Q1) – Focus on personal well-being.
2. Us (Q2) – Strengthen your closest relationships.
3. Them (Q3) – Contribute meaningfully to your broader community.
4. God (Q4) – Reflect on and act upon your higher purpose.

This approach ensures that each key area of your life receives dedicated attention at least once a year.

Defining “Haves” in Other Strands

While we’re zeroing in on the Me strand first, it’s helpful to glance at examples of “Haves” in the other strands:

• Us Strand: “All of our children and grandchildren vacationed together for a week.”
• Them Strand: “I have had 64 clients complete The HOPE Protocol.”
• God Strand: “I have inspired one hundred thousand people to become better.”

Let’s Find Your Haves

Your first assignment is to exhale your ideas onto paper (or a digital document). Make a “bucket list” for each strand:

1. Me Strand – Focus on body and mind goals.
2. Us Strand – Consider meaningful milestones you want to achieve with those you love most.
3. Them Strand – Envision the impact or support you want to provide to your broader circle (e.g., colleagues, clients, community).
4. God Strand – Reflect on your deeper purpose and how your gifts can serve a greater good.

Write down as many ideas as you can—no matter how big, small, or unrealistic they seem at first. We’re looking for the “Have” that will give you direction for the year ahead.

Long-Term vs. Short-Term

Make sure that each quarterly “Have” also moves you closer to a bigger, longer-term goal. For example, my own long-term “Me” goal is to dance at my grandchildren’s weddings. To achieve this, I need to maintain an ideal weight and waist size for better health and also learn how to dance confidently.

Always remember:

• Life span = How long you live
• Health span = How long you can live well (e.g., dancing, moving without pain)

Discovering Your God-Given Purpose

Many people feel lost when asked, “What is your God-given purpose?” Here are a few questions to help you identify it:

1. What are you naturally passionate about?
2. What activities feel nearly effortless for you and give you energy?
3. What provides deep satisfaction or a sense of reward when you’re done?

A God-given purpose aligns with your core values and extends beyond your personal circles to serve the greater community. It produces positive outcomes (“fruit”) that bless others and honor a higher calling.

No More Waiting

Start jotting down your Haves now—even if you’re not sure you’ll keep all of them. Begin where you are. As you refine your list, your clarity will grow.

Stay tuned for Dream Reality: Part Two, where we’ll continue this journey and dive deeper into making your visions come to life.

Remember, the first step to creating your “new me” is to dream clearly about what you want to “Have.” Once you see your destination, it’s much easier to plan the “Do” and shape the “Be.”

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Thank you for joining us on this journey through menopause and weight management. We hope this issue has shed light on practical strategies to help you feel healthier and more confident every day. Remember, it’s not just about the number on the scale—it’s about creating lasting habits that support your body as it changes.

Ready to take the next step? Your best self is waiting. Call 209-345-9799 to claim your free week of coaching—there are no sales, just results.

It’s time to embrace the healthiest, happiest version of you, and we’re here to guide you every step of the way. Let’s make this the start of something amazing!

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